The PARIS Forums


Home » The PARIS Forums » PARIS: Main » RIP - My Dad
RIP - My Dad [message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 17:54 Go to next message
Don Nafe is currently offline  Don Nafe   UNITED STATES
Messages: 1206
Registered: July 2005
Senior Member
Hey All

I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight

My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
which was more than once.

I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
others were eating hamburger"

I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.

Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
magical would be an understatement.

Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
that day.

In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
body finally gave out.

I will miss the old fart.

Peace

Don
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69070 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 18:15 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Rob Arsenault is currently offline  Rob Arsenault   CANADA
Messages: 152
Registered: September 2005
Senior Member
Very sad to hear this Don, peace and love buddy.


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69071 is a reply to message #69070] Wed, 07 June 2006 18:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Tom Bruhl is currently offline  Tom Bruhl   UNITED STATES
Messages: 1368
Registered: June 2007
Senior Member
This is a multi-part message in MIME format.

------=_NextPart_000_0013_01C68A78.D46ADE80
Content-Type: text/plain;
charset="iso-8859-1"
Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable

Don,
Your dad sounds like one hell of a fella. You're a lucky
man to have had him as a father. Remember all that matters.

I'll think of both of you tonight.
Tom



"Rob Arsenault" <mani2@NOSPAMnbnet.nb.ca> wrote in message =
news:44877710@linux...
Very sad to hear this Don, peace and love buddy.


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made =
in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed =
him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor =
sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late =
40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to =
huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table =
when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big =
band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from =
major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west =
to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families =
were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding =
the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every =
musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on =
sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar =
and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the =
room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it =
was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to =
sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly =
felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on =
showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. =
Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly =
grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 =
days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>




I choose Polesoft Lockspam to fight spam, and you?
http://www.polesoft.com/refer.html
------=_NextPart_000_0013_01C68A78.D46ADE80
Content-Type: text/html;
charset="iso-8859-1"
Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable

<!DOCTYPE HTML PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional//EN">
<HTML><HEAD>
<META http-equiv=3DContent-Type content=3D"text/html; =
charset=3Diso-8859-1">
<META content=3D"MSHTML 6.00.2800.1400" name=3DGENERATOR>
<STYLE></STYLE>
</HEAD>
<BODY bgColor=3D#ffffff>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Don,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Your dad sounds like one hell of a =
fella.&nbsp;=20
You're a lucky</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>man to have had him as a father.&nbsp; =
Remember=20
</FONT><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>all that matters.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2></FONT>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I'll think of both of you =
tonight.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Tom</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2></FONT>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2></FONT>&nbsp;</DIV>
<BLOCKQUOTE=20
style=3D"PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px; =
BORDER-LEFT: #000000 2px solid; MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<DIV>"Rob Arsenault" &lt;<A=20
=
href=3D"mailto:mani2@NOSPAMnbnet.nb.ca">mani2@NOSPAMnbnet.nb.ca</A>&gt; =
wrote in=20
message <A =
href=3D"news:44877710@linux">news:44877710@linux</A>...</DIV>Very sad=20
to hear this Don, peace and love buddy.<BR><BR><BR>"Don Nafe" &lt;<A=20
href=3D"mailto:dnafe@magma.ca">dnafe@magma.ca</A>&gt; wrote in message =
<A=20
href=3D"news:44877418$1@linux">news:44877418$1@linux</A>...<BR>&gt; =
Hey=20
All<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; I thought you should know that my Dad finally =
passed away=20
from<BR>complications<BR>&gt; due to ALS. He put up one helluva=20
fight<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; My Dad was a tough but fair military man from =
the old=20
school yet he<BR>mellowed<BR>&gt; with the times and was a complete =
push over=20
when he was around his<BR>&gt; Grandchildren. He never fully agreed =
with many=20
of the choices I made in<BR>life<BR>&gt; but respected me for pursing =
them and=20
was always there when I needed him,<BR>&gt; which was more than=20
once.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician =
in his=20
day. Tenor sax was<BR>&gt; his axe of choice but he could wail on =
piano and=20
during the late 40's and<BR>&gt; early 50's had at least three bands =
going,=20
from little combo's to huge big<BR>&gt; band jazz bands. As he used to =
say "it=20
kept roast beef on our table when<BR>&gt; others were eating=20
hamburger"<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; I had the privilege of playing with him in =
the=20
eighties when the big band<BR>he<BR>&gt; was in needed a fill in =
drummer while=20
their drummer recovered from major<BR>&gt; heart surgery...very cool =
time=20
indeed and I do believe I earned his<BR>respect<BR>&gt; as a musician, =
I know=20
my respect for him increased immeasurably.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; Another =
amazing=20
music moment happened when our family went out west to<BR>&gt; attend =
my=20
cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families =
were<BR>all<BR>&gt;=20
there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding=20
the<BR>&gt; whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out =
every=20
musical<BR>&gt; instrument we could get our hands on and started to =
jam...Dad=20
on sax, my<BR>two<BR>&gt; uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins =
were on=20
organ, guitar and<BR>bass<BR>&gt; and I was on the drums....and there =
sitting=20
in the corner of the room was<BR>my<BR>&gt; grandmother...with tears =
of joy=20
running down her cheeks...to say it was<BR>&gt; magical would be an=20
understatement.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; Shortly after Dad was admitted into =
the=20
hospital I got a chance to sit<BR>with<BR>&gt; him and do that Father =
and son=20
thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt<BR>&gt; about him no matter =
how=20
hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing<BR>&gt; emotion or =
saying I=20
love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of<BR>&gt; =
sadness, love=20
and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly =
grateful<BR>for<BR>&gt; that=20
day.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; In the end he refused the IV that was his life =
support=20
and after 12 days<BR>his<BR>&gt; body finally gave =
out.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; I will=20
miss the old fart.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt; Peace<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;=20
Don<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;<BR ><BR></BLOCKQUOTE>
<DIV><FONT size=3D2><BR><BR>I choose Polesoft Lockspam to fight spam, =
and=20
you?<BR><A=20
href=3D"http://www.polesoft.com/refer.html">http://www.polesoft.com/refer=
..html</A>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</FONT></DIV></BODY ></HTML>

------=_NextPart_000_0013_01C68A78.D46ADE80--
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69072 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 18:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
excelav is currently offline  excelav   
Messages: 2130
Registered: July 2005
Location: Metro Detroit
Senior Member
Hey Don, I'm vary sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds like he was a
great guy! They just don't make them like that anymore, they were the generation
that made this country great!

I went through it in 2000 with my dad, we also got to bond a bit. I've got
to say, it was hardest on my mom, she lost the love of her life. I'll pray
for you and your family.

Peace

James


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69073 is a reply to message #69072] Wed, 07 June 2006 18:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Deej [1] is currently offline  Deej [1]   UNITED STATES
Messages: 2149
Registered: January 2006
Senior Member
You said it better than I could have. We still have so much to learn from
that generation. Incredible bravery and humility and they are starting to
disappear now. My Dad passed away in 2001.

Hang in there Don. We'll be thinking of you here.

Deej

"James McCloskey" <excelsm@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:4487807d$1@linux...
>
> Hey Don, I'm vary sorry to hear about your loss. He sounds like he was a
> great guy! They just don't make them like that anymore, they were the
generation
> that made this country great!
>
> I went through it in 2000 with my dad, we also got to bond a bit. I've
got
> to say, it was hardest on my mom, she lost the love of her life. I'll
pray
> for you and your family.
>
> Peace
>
> James
>
>
> "Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
> >Hey All
> >
> >I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
>
> >due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
> >
> >My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
>
> >with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> >Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
> life
> >but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
>
> >which was more than once.
> >
> >I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
>
> >his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
>
> >early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge
big
>
> >band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
>
> >others were eating hamburger"
> >
> >I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
> he
> >was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
>
> >heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
>
> >as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
> >
> >Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> >attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
> all
> >there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
>
> >whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> >instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
> two
> >uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
>
> >and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
> my
> >grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
>
> >magical would be an understatement.
> >
> >Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
>
> >him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
>
> >about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on
showing
>
> >emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
> of
> >sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
> for
> >that day.
> >
> >In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
> his
> >body finally gave out.
> >
> >I will miss the old fart.
> >
> >Peace
> >
> >Don
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69074 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 20:04 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Carl Amburn is currently offline  Carl Amburn   UNITED STATES
Messages: 214
Registered: July 2005
Senior Member
Sorry to hear that Don. Sounds like you were very lucky to have him.

-Carl Amburn

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69075 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 21:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
DC is currently offline  DC
Messages: 722
Registered: July 2005
Senior Member
My Dad passed a couple of years back...

He saw the famous Sinatra / Goodman show at the Paramount in
NYC that launched Frank's career, and actually met Frank on the
street before the show. Was a jazz fan in NYC all through the
30's to the 50's, a time I can only dream of. Worked 3 jobs to
send us to college so we could come home and tell him how dumb
he was...

I will tolerate about 1/10 of the crap from my kids that he put up
with from me... He guarded German POW's in WWII. I play with
audio gear...

And yeah, he was still a PITA bigtime.

He had quite a life, my dad.

It's hard, man. I will see him again though.

Best wishes to you and yours in this difficult time.

DC
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69076 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 21:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Neil is currently offline  Neil
Messages: 1645
Registered: April 2006
Senior Member
Wow, Don... sorry to hear that. Thanks for letting us know him
just a little bit by posting what I thought was a great
tribute to your dad.

Neil
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69077 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 22:21 Go to previous messageGo to next message
LaMont is currently offline  LaMont
Messages: 828
Registered: October 2005
Senior Member
I sorry to hear about that Don.. My consolence to you and your family..LaMont

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69078 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 01:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Kim is currently offline  Kim
Messages: 1246
Registered: October 2005
Senior Member
I don't know what to say.

Thinking of you and yours.

Cheers,
Kim.

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69080 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 01:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
rick is currently offline  rick   UNITED STATES
Messages: 1976
Registered: February 2006
Senior Member
Don,

both candy and i send you our condolences for your loss. your letter
proves that it is never to late to say the things that need to be
said. i'm glad that you and your father were able to share your long
known but seldom spoken truth

peace
rick

On Wed, 7 Jun 2006 20:54:17 -0400, "Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:

>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69081 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 03:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Jamie K is currently offline  Jamie K   UNITED STATES
Messages: 1115
Registered: July 2006
Senior Member
Hey Don,

Very sorry to hear about your loss. Thanks for giving us an insight into
your dad's life.

In addition to your musical talents, you are a compelling writer. Just
two of many reasons for him to be very proud of his son.

Cheers,
-Jamie
http://www.JamieKrutz.com



Don Nafe wrote:
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69083 is a reply to message #69081] Thu, 08 June 2006 07:00 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Tyrone Corbett is currently offline  Tyrone Corbett   
Messages: 253
Registered: August 2006
Senior Member
My sincerest condolences on the loss of your father.

Tyrone
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69086 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 08:15 Go to previous messageGo to next message
John [1] is currently offline  John [1]
Messages: 2229
Registered: September 2005
Senior Member
Don,
My deepest condolences to you and yours. I only hope I get the chance to
tell my Dad how I really feel. It's tough being sentimental with these old
farts but we love them dearly. I'm sure your Dad was extrordinary.

godspeed,
John


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69087 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 08:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Pete Ruthenburg is currently offline  Pete Ruthenburg   
Messages: 127
Registered: June 2005
Senior Member
Peace to you and your family Don.

Pete

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69088 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 08:35 Go to previous messageGo to next message
jef knight[1] is currently offline  jef knight[1]   CANADA
Messages: 201
Registered: October 2005
Senior Member
Hi Don,

Nina and I, our hearts are with you, and your family, today. Much
empathy. Much sympathy.

Peace

jef & nina knight




Don Nafe wrote:

>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69090 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 08:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
EK Sound is currently offline  EK Sound   CANADA
Messages: 939
Registered: June 2005
Senior Member
My heartfelt condolences to you and yours.

Regards,

David.

Don Nafe wrote:

> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69097 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 10:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Tony Benson is currently offline  Tony Benson   UNITED STATES
Messages: 453
Registered: June 2006
Senior Member
Sorry to hear about your dad's passing Don. My thoughts are with you.

Tony


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
> complications due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
> mellowed with the times and was a complete push over when he was around
> his Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made
> in life but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I
> needed him, which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
> he was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from
> major heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
> respect as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
> all there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding
> the whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
> two uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
> bass and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room
> was my grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it
> was magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
> with him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly
> felt about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on
> showing emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day.
> Tears of sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly
> grateful for that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
> his body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69101 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 12:14 Go to previous messageGo to next message
gene lennon is currently offline  gene lennon
Messages: 565
Registered: July 2006
Senior Member
Sorry to hear about your Dad. It sounds like he was a good man.
Thinking about you.
Gene
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69105 is a reply to message #69069] Wed, 07 June 2006 21:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Edna Sloan is currently offline  Edna Sloan   UNITED STATES
Messages: 304
Registered: October 2005
Senior Member
Very sorry to hear. I was very traumatized when my dad passed. God bless,
Edna

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69107 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 14:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Ted Gerber is currently offline  Ted Gerber   
Messages: 705
Registered: January 2009
Senior Member
It's emotionally draining, that's for sure. My wife's Dad passed away
a few weeks ago, and my sister died with very little notice a few months

before that. Seems like you're processing it well. Take care.

All the best,

Ted Gerber

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69108 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 14:28 Go to previous messageGo to next message
steve the artguy is currently offline  steve the artguy
Messages: 308
Registered: June 2005
Senior Member
thanks for posting that, Don
It is appreciated. Very much.

-steve


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69111 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 17:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Dedric Terry is currently offline  Dedric Terry
Messages: 788
Registered: June 2007
Senior Member
Don - I am sorry to hear about your Dad passing.

Best wishes and condolences,
Dedric.

On 6/7/06 6:54 PM, in article 44877418$1@linux, "Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca>
wrote:

> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69126 is a reply to message #69069] Thu, 08 June 2006 01:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Sarah is currently offline  Sarah   UNITED STATES
Messages: 608
Registered: February 2007
Senior Member
Condolences, Don,

I helped care for and befriended a local jazz trumpeter named Richard
Burdell during his ten year struggle with ALS. That's a very rough thing
for a family to deal with.

Hugs,

Sarah
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69130 is a reply to message #69069] Fri, 09 June 2006 16:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
emarenot is currently offline  emarenot   UNITED STATES
Messages: 345
Registered: June 2005
Senior Member
Peace to you and yours Don.
I'll remember you in my prayers.
MR

"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69156 is a reply to message #69069] Sat, 10 June 2006 10:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Rod Lincoln is currently offline  Rod Lincoln
Messages: 883
Registered: September 2005
Senior Member
My Uncle died of ALS a few years ago. I know it's tough seeing a loved one
go through that. I'm truly sorry for your loss.
Rod
"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:
>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications

>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he mellowed

>with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
>Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
>but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,

>which was more than once.
>
>I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was

>his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and

>early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big

>band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when

>others were eating hamburger"
>
>I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
>was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major

>heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his respect

>as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
>Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
>attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
>there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the

>whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
>instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
>uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and bass

>and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
>grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was

>magical would be an understatement.
>
>Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit with

>him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt

>about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing

>emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
>sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
>that day.
>
>In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
>body finally gave out.
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>
>Peace
>
>Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69169 is a reply to message #69069] Sun, 11 June 2006 04:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Don Nafe is currently offline  Don Nafe   UNITED STATES
Messages: 1206
Registered: July 2005
Senior Member
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers, they are truly appreciated

DOn

ps. He sent us a lttle message that he's doing just fine...and so are we


"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
> complications due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
> mellowed with the times and was a complete push over when he was around
> his Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made
> in life but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I
> needed him, which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
> he was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from
> major heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
> respect as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
> all there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding
> the whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
> two uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
> bass and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room
> was my grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it
> was magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
> with him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly
> felt about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on
> showing emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day.
> Tears of sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly
> grateful for that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
> his body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69174 is a reply to message #69069] Sun, 11 June 2006 08:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Miguel Vigil [1] is currently offline  Miguel Vigil [1]   UNITED STATES
Messages: 258
Registered: July 2005
Senior Member
God Bless you and the Nafe family. I'm thrilled you had great musical times
to enjoy with your family.

El Miguel



"Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> Hey All
>
> I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
complications
> due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
> My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
mellowed
> with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
life
> but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed him,
> which was more than once.
>
> I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax was
> his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's and
> early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge big
> band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> others were eating hamburger"
>
> I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big band
he
> was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
respect
> as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
>
> Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
all
> there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
two
> uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
bass
> and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room was
my
> grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> magical would be an understatement.
>
> Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
with
> him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly felt
> about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on showing
> emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears of
> sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
for
> that day.
>
> In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
his
> body finally gave out.
>
> I will miss the old fart.
>
> Peace
>
> Don
>
>
>
>
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69239 is a reply to message #69069] Mon, 12 June 2006 11:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Paul Braun is currently offline  Paul Braun   UNITED STATES
Messages: 391
Registered: September 2005
Senior Member
On Wed, 7 Jun 2006 20:54:17 -0400, "Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote:

>Hey All
>
>I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from complications
>due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
>
>
>I will miss the old fart.
>

Condolences to you and your family, Don.

Death of a parent is always tough. I know how it is.

And we've got a friend who's dying of ALS right now, so we're learning
how to deal with that particularly ugly disease. He's got a
remarkable outlook, but it's heartbreaking to watch.

pab
Re: RIP - My Dad [message #69265 is a reply to message #69174] Mon, 12 June 2006 18:49 Go to previous message
uptown jimmy is currently offline  uptown jimmy   UNITED STATES
Messages: 441
Registered: September 2005
Senior Member
I wish you the best. I wish I had known beter times with my parents.
Treasure your happy memories. Moments and memories are all we have.

Jimmy

"Miguel Vigil" <nospam@nospam.com> wrote in message news:448c3c3f@linux...
> God Bless you and the Nafe family. I'm thrilled you had great musical
times
> to enjoy with your family.
>
> El Miguel
>
>
>
> "Don Nafe" <dnafe@magma.ca> wrote in message news:44877418$1@linux...
> > Hey All
> >
> > I thought you should know that my Dad finally passed away from
> complications
> > due to ALS. He put up one helluva fight
> >
> > My Dad was a tough but fair military man from the old school yet he
> mellowed
> > with the times and was a complete push over when he was around his
> > Grandchildren. He never fully agreed with many of the choices I made in
> life
> > but respected me for pursing them and was always there when I needed
him,
> > which was more than once.
> >
> > I can proudly say he was a pretty good musician in his day. Tenor sax
was
> > his axe of choice but he could wail on piano and during the late 40's
and
> > early 50's had at least three bands going, from little combo's to huge
big
> > band jazz bands. As he used to say "it kept roast beef on our table when
> > others were eating hamburger"
> >
> > I had the privilege of playing with him in the eighties when the big
band
> he
> > was in needed a fill in drummer while their drummer recovered from major
> > heart surgery...very cool time indeed and I do believe I earned his
> respect
> > as a musician, I know my respect for him increased immeasurably.
> >
> > Another amazing music moment happened when our family went out west to
> > attend my cousin's wedding...Dad's two brothers and their families were
> all
> > there, as well as my grandmother...anyway the day after the wedding the
> > whole crew went down to my Uncle's basement, hauled out every musical
> > instrument we could get our hands on and started to jam...Dad on sax, my
> two
> > uncles were on piano and trumpet, my cousins were on organ, guitar and
> bass
> > and I was on the drums....and there sitting in the corner of the room
was
> my
> > grandmother...with tears of joy running down her cheeks...to say it was
> > magical would be an understatement.
> >
> > Shortly after Dad was admitted into the hospital I got a chance to sit
> with
> > him and do that Father and son thing...I had to tell him how I truly
felt
> > about him no matter how hard it was...you see Dad was never big on
showing
> > emotion or saying I love you but we sure let it all out that day. Tears
of
> > sadness, love and joy were shed by the bucketful and I am truly grateful
> for
> > that day.
> >
> > In the end he refused the IV that was his life support and after 12 days
> his
> > body finally gave out.
> >
> > I will miss the old fart.
> >
> > Peace
> >
> > Don
> >
> >
> >
> >
>
>
Previous Topic: Mac user question
Next Topic: LA2 compressor settings
Goto Forum:
  


Current Time: Sun Dec 15 07:57:53 PST 2024

Total time taken to generate the page: 0.02942 seconds